by
lyndlj
@ 2007-06-24 - 11:23:49
I am so lazy lately here we are after eleven again before the morning post!
At six this morning when I took the Molly out it was raining, not heavy, just light refreshing rain, then the sun struggled through, and now it is darkening again so looks like more rain. And I was going to have a wander into town as well, never mind.
I have decided to pamper myself today, so am going to have a facial and do my hair and nails and sit and relax with some smooth sounds and a good book.
Coming from a family of eight in a house where space and privacy were non-existant I love the space and privacy that I have now, the pleasing myself what to do and when to do it, no schedules apart from work. Weekends are mine to do as I please, though I try to keep to a schedule for the studying, it is one of my making and not one forced on me by others.
I brought my children up to schedules, not very strict ones, but they knew when teatime was and bedtime and so on, but weekends were another matter, I believe that children should have playtime, and most weekends were just that, if it was too wet and cold for outdoor games we played indoor games, we had family nights that consisted of treats and movieseach one having a choice. They were good fun and things that they talk about even now.
My son has told me how his friends wanted to live with us because their mams didnt play ball out in the street with them, or play board games and the tV was for adults to choose what was watched. I never was a big tV fan, so the kids got to have it untill bedtime, they were the soap addicts, the ones who insisted watching Home and Away and Neighbours, now they dont recognise the characters from either of them 
I think we all do things differently, I placed my children above all other things, I wanted to give them the childhood I didnt have, I believe that childhood is important, that that is the only time in their lives they are going to be free of worries and cares and be able to be happy and relaxed. With Adulthood comes all the worries of work and family so that time before it is special and should be as pleasent as possible.
Course we cannot keep from them all the bad, and we shouldn't try, they have to learn that the world is not made up of icecream and fun fairs, they would sit with me at night and watch the news and ask questions, which I would answer as truthfully as I was able. Inquisitive minds, and a passion for learning, well two of them anyway.
Maybe I did give them something worth having, who knows, all I know is you can only do your best, the rest is up to them.