Just Me!! The Butterfly effect

There is no getting away from it!

Every site I go to on the net all they talk about is facebook. So I decided, right off out into the real world where I can leve the ether behind for a while, hahahaha who am I kidding.

Walking past a young female with a young male leaning towards her, and I thinks aww he gonna ask her out? And he says 'Da ya no, saw a great pic of you on facebook'

OMG! is this the new chat up line?

I can see it now the lines of the future

Chat up lines: 'Da ya no, saw a great pic of you on facebook' and 'great profile you got on facebook'

Party line ice breakers 'anyone see the new designs on facebook?' and 'did you see the new quiz they got on facebook?'

The 'Look at me how great am I' Lines: 'Oh my dear I have hundreds on my list on facebook'and 'Really, I have so many messages it takes me hours to look at them all on facebook'

What lines can you come up with for this the new era?

I should be writing my final assignment before my exam right now and here I am writing on blog!!

Still what could be a better break from study than 'talking' to my blogfriends?

It would appear that the 'Flu' my 'date that never happened' was suffering from has impaired his ability to use the phone, I have given him two weeks to recover from something that should only have taken a week and there has been no call, so it seems another one bites the dust, lol, that makes it sound like there has been/is loads of them. I should be so lucky, it would be nice to be able to say that gone are the days when they queued up to take me out, but that has never happened to my knowledge

The dating game is painful isn't it? It is bad enough when you are young and just setting out, but when you are older and wiser and aware of all the pitfalls that go with it, it is even worse. We older ladies look at things differently and hear things differently, so beware guys, lines you used on that 18 year old all those years ago, they dont work anymore, it is not cool to turn up for our date wearing a football shirt and jeans and brylcreem (can you still get that?) makes you look like a throw back from the sixties

I want cool sophistication, or lacking that at least a reasonable sense of dress, if you are going to wear a football shirt it better be the team I support and the date better be tickets to go watch them play I dont mind Jeans, heck I practically live in them, but the restaurant (yes a restaurant you dont really think I am going to do McDonalds do you or the local chippy?) favours either casual or suit, as for that drink, well your local may be fine on a weeknight when you are slipping out for a quick pint or two, but for the first (and second and maybe third if you get that far) date you need to be taking me out to a nice bar or like I said the restaurant and then a nice bar, I will probably love your local later on in the process, but not at the beginning.

And I want conversation, I already know what the weather is like having been out in it, I already know whats on the tV, though I rarely watch it I have the net, I am not interested in Big brother or the X factor, coronation street and eastenders and all other soaps bore me to tears, ask me questions, allow me to ask you questions, and not stuff like 'so who do ya support!' I will discuss football with you if you wish, but be warned that when I discuss it I will go in to match details. I will discuss anything but the above mentioned, providing it is a discussion and not a 'if you say so' or 'oh do they' to every remark.

I am not an expensive date, I like nice food (preferrably Italian) and I dont drink anything but wine while having a meal, the rest of the time it is soft drinks. I am easily entertained preferring good conversation to expensive tickets for shows (though I could still be persuaded to go )

And if that isn't enough to put off the whole of the male population in England and anywhere else I dont know what is

I was reading Mala's blog the other day and she had this question on it

'How do you measure your self worth? By what you do or by who you are?'

I read Mala's answer and I read the many comments she received, and it got me to thinking quite a bit about worth, your own, friends, relations, because we are all made up of the people and events that surround us, but is that what makes us, us, or is us being us what makes the people and events what they are?

For many years I believed that my only worth was in doing the bidding of others, me as in 'I' did not exist in any other place than the imagination and the long dark nights while I lay awake fervently praying that I would be taken away if not by death then by some magical and wonderful creature that would award me the same kind of freedom. A child of 8/10/12 should not wish for death or freedom, they should already be free to run and play and enjoy life, something I vowed that mine would do and would be, when my prayers went unanswered in any form.

But lets look at it in greater detail, what is self worth? What does it exactly mean? It is supposedly a value that you place upon yourself, how you view yourself at any given time, it amounts to your self esteem. So it can change given the mood you are in the circumstances and the role that you are considering.

My worth is in being me, not pretending to be someone I am not, in being true to the me that came out from the long dark night to find the sun on her face, despite the many black clouds that have passed over it through the years, despite the kicks and the knocks and the cussedness of life, I am and that is my worth.

From Landers of course, and I know I dont normally do them, but thought I would have a go

Here is a silly random Friday Five for you all......I would love to see some pretty silly replies too if you can

1. Why is the earth round?

Because it wouldn't fit on that little spindle thing and spin around otherwise

2. Why does toast burn just as you turn round to make a cuppa tea?

Because you were waiting for someone else to make the tea and they were too busy playing on WOW

3. Are you a hoarder and never throw stuff away?

Theres loads of life left in those batteries yet!!

4. Why do dogs always want to kiss you after they have been licking their "bits"??

Because to a Dog your face looks like its bits?

5. Why do petrol stations charge you for air to blow your tyres up?? Isn't air free?

Yes it is, but the maintenance of the tube and the wages of the man that has to collect it and put it in the tube all are very costly!

Yeah, pretty random I know but hey, let's have some fun with the replies!

You know what to do....cut and paste blah de blah!

I hope you have a great day and a wonderful year to follow my Friend

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Brilliant song by Neil Diamond,

Sometimes when I hear it I think how well some of the lyrics seem to fit my life or the way I feel at that moment. The chorous for instance, when it seems that no one listens no matter what I say, and how often I feel lost but dont know why I feel that way. And sometimes you just want to scream, even if it is just to hear your own voice, it isn't the most uplifting of songs but one that I find particurlarly apt on occasions, as I do with most songs.

However, it doesn't put me in a down mood, because this song is always followed by Song sung blue, and this one basically tells you that if you start singing, even with a sad voice, soon you will be singing with a happier voice, because singing gets rid of the blues, it throws them out.

I have to admit that music is my greatest salvation, there is a song that will fit every mood I am in and eventually that leads to songs that are brighter and dancier and th clouds roll away.

Course not all the music that I listen to is downbeat, that is just for when I am already feeling that way, sometimes I like to relax and listen to the soft sax of Kenny G, and other times I want dance or rock. There is always something to fit the mood when you listen to music

I know you have been waiting with bated breath for this.

I have spent half of the week umming and ahhing over the impending 'date' I had many reasons for not going, none of them really valid, so after being threatened with sticks and all kinds of other punishments I accepted that I would go and spent the latter half of the week deciding what to wear in quiet anticipation of what at the worst would be a chat between two people that were raised in the same area.

I decided as we were just going to the pub that a simple blue jersey sweater (due to the rain etc here) and black trousers would look good and classy but not over dressed.

I had planned how to have my hair and what shoes I would wear.

Then came the phone call at two yesterday afternoon, he has the flu, and he sounded so ill and fed up that I couldn't be annoyed with him, though I did advise him to check that it wasn't the flu of the pig variety.

He is going to call me as soon as he feels better and we will rearrange our night out.

Of course I have gone through all the is he really ill or did he change his mind scenario's, but he did sound quite ill, so we will see.

And how was your weekend?